posted by dave on Sunday, October 28, 2007 at 12:32 AM in category ramblings

Sometimes I think that I was born on the wrong planet. That just might be the most reasonable explanation for my utter incapability to explain this to those around me.

See, sometimes I hear shit. And it's the same tired old shit I've been hearing for at least 20 years. And it's just as wrong now as it was 20 years ago, and 100 years ago, and 1,000,000 years ago.

It's like people just take the easiest explanation, that the person they're dealing with is flat-out wrong, and they run with that explanation as far as they can.

Tonight, I heard this dude talking about how he'd ended a relationship. Why he'd ended a relationship. His girlfriend had a problem with his platonic friendship with another woman, so he dumped her.

Everyone in the area pretty much stood up and applauded. I'm surprised that nobody got their dick sucked, so frenzied was that orgy of appreciation.

Well, I guess the night is still young. Dicks may yet be sucked.

Anyway, I, like a dumbass, decided to contribute my own two cents worth to the conversation.

Sometimes, it's not jealousy or mistrust. Sometimes, it's simple insecurity. Sometimes, it's not unreasonable. Sometimes, it's understandable, if only the slightest attempt at understanding is made.

Sometimes, a little reassurance can go a very long way.

I've tried many times, over the years, to get people to accept these simple ideas into their heads. Not as absolute truths, merely as possibilities. I just get sick of hearing the same old shit over and over and over. So I speak up.

Each and every time, I've been met with ridicule and derision.

I should just stop trying, but I probably won't. It's a subject that's very relevant to me. I know a lot about it, because I've seen both sides of insecurity several times.

Sometimes, things can be fixed. It only takes a bit of effort and empathy. But people don't want that. They want the path of least resistance, and quite often that path leads right out of a relationship.

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